how to heal a broken heart

Telling about brokenheart, first in our mind, we would talk about the saddest sadness we ever had, emptiness,hopelessness, loneliness, fear, crying for days, lock up in the room, unbelieved that happen to us, sorrow, feeling harder to breathe, fury, even impact to irrationality by questioning "why". When we brokenheart, it means that we had reach special level in our life, because not everybody had that experience. On that time, the potention of our humanity shows up with all the energy and its secret power or in other word brokenhearted people comes up with his/her magic power because of the prayer from the suffer one easily accepted by God.

The Steps of Brokenheart

1. Crash Boom Bang - remuk redam

"Why is he/she changing?"

Brokenheart for one side of love or broke up after 2/3/7 years or more must made us feeling like being knocked up or slammed, feel so much pain in our heart, harder to breathe, shock, shaking, glimpse - headache until the 7 star comes up in your eyes then you start to faint.. . .. hahahaha... don't take it serious.... The point is, brokenheart make us sad mix with mad/upset/angry, gloomy, so please cry! take your head on my shoulder hehehehe... be please to crying for days 'coz those were so HUMAN crying for remembering those beautiful times with the one once we loved. Feel sorry when we passed the place where we had a memory with her/him. Feel the heart beat so fast (deg-deg an) when passing the cafe 'coz fear being debt when we take credit for dating (hahh susye nerjemahinnya, ada ga ya bule ngutang/nge-bon di warung ninggal ktp?). Yeah, brokenheart always make us sad, wants to cry and when it happen, so just release it, please cry, because everyboy even celebrities, politicians, great people have been crying. Prophet Rasulullah SAW was one of the people who tears eyes drop. Don't hold your tears, fleed your life spaces with blue mood. It can be for week or months if the sadnest not managed well.But, once again, don't let us too drown in the sea of sadness for this little creepy brokenheart things.. where is your pride.. Don't you sorry for your best friends whose being listened to your sad story over again and again, in the other side their little kind heart must be so bored listening those repetitive story.

2. Let's take Revenge!

It was the most destructive level in the brokenheart steps. Angry, mad, upset for being cheated, fooled or rejected. Madness, bad mood .. you know.. so damn mentally emotion!. Naturally, there'll come some thoughts such as "What I've done?", "What's wrong with me?".. or " Am I not enough to be yours?". "Damn you, bastard! You'd cheat my trust, Damned alligator, crocodile, dog, cat, tiger,elephant, blablabla... you can tell all the animals of South East Asia. Thats normal, if you're angry and too emotionally. Who can stay patient and not angry when have been cheated/fooled? Fake promises, nonsense, bullshit!!,

When the BROKENHEARTED ENERGY fulfilled. Its not good to blame ourself by manage our anger with throwing glasses, dishes, cellphone, ... what a menace thing.. (repot) .. just grab your plasma TV and throw it slam it against the wall until scatter into pieces so you got completely bankruptcy / flat broke, or you can slam the door (banting pintu), so if you got locked inside the room,, i don't even want to know.. hehehe..

Not funny huhh, because of brokenheart we'll be silly person.

Interesting phenomena is that we easily jealous with people who are in love, it seems we want to throw shoes to them, when knowing cats (kucing kawin?) we want to shower them with cool freeze water because of its disturbing annoying sound they made, when we went to the wedding we enjoy and usually eat too much in order to make the newlyweds got broke(nombok?) 'cause lack of catering.. hmmm.. that so bad!.

The most thought or reaction of brokenheart is that the feeling of anger and wanna take revenge with every opposite sex we met. Swore not to trust again with man or if he's a man he won't be loyal with one woman. Unclear state of promises and forgot the nature of life that God create every humankind with their own unique characteristics, that can't be generalize....

The energy of anger for brokenhearted should be manage to do some positive things, such as at least you could write it on your diary/live journal/blog or newspaper so you earn some money from it, or if you still angry you could be digging (nyangkul) and when you enjoy it you had finished digging until an acres or more...!!! (gempor..gempor lo sekalian) or you could join running/ marathon event so if you win you get prizes and money of course.. hmm... isn't it a great idea?

3. Empty Space

After the anger of brokenheart, we felt emptyness, loneliness, alone so lonely without you, black n gloomy saturday nights, lazy to go out and hang out with friends... so sensitive when listening song with brokenheart themes.. like NeYo singing.." And I'm so sick of love songs, So tierd of tears, So done with wishing, You were still here, Said I'm so sick of love songs, So sad and slow.."

Feeling lost and become the most unlucky people.

Why am I giving this hard time like this?

Then become not so confidence and fill the emptyness with cruel ways, happy hour, wasting money in the wrong way, clubbing or the worst of all take a down low level the standard of our could be destiny. Just pick the one in front of us to fill the empty space. Woww.. that's so bad, not qualify. . . when there's someone give a little care to us, just take it.. wow why you have to be so desperate like that?

So how?.. stay being happy single?. See the positive side, single is free, no one get jealous easily, can do activities that no need our couple, our time count less when we coupled, so be creative n positive productive!.

We must had our pride, don't lose yourself by picking anyone to fill the emptyness, because we are worth enough!.

We are special and unique, we had the best things in ourself than others, but we haven't maximized our potention.

The point is don't try to make others love us, but try to make ourself DESERVED to love!. C'mon maximized your qualities!!

4. Fight again..!

If you left your brokenheart things, start to find your couple again.

Its easy!. Get socialized!, join courses, attend to party, reunion, online chatting, join friendster, facebook, multiply, mailing list, my space etc.. At first, might be you just lazy, but try to push and force yourself!. until you tied in the right way. Next, how to get someone to be your couple,, ehm,, its secret, cause it can be used by someone most wanted.. criminal ...

So keep fighting!

Thanks for reading, don't easily brokenheart, not good for your health!, don't be sad too long, please smile again ;)

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Broken heart is so human, natural, normal, happy, beautiful, a worth it experience, made us learn much, one of God's gift, no need to sorry, one part of our life, not equal with desperate, positive, and the most important brokenheart won't make us fall but might be we could fall in love again.. !!!! BE FREE !!!!!